Today, we had roughly 15-20 people over at our place. If you know me, you know I’m a planner to the MAX. Heck, I made spreadsheets (Yup, PLURAL) for our trip to DISNEYLAND for Pete’s sake. Planning and organizing is in my blood. Naturally this means that I had every detail for this birthday bash planned months in advance, right?
False. We decided to throw this shindig six days ago, and didn’t even have everything purchased for the party until just a couple hours before. I’m pretty proud though – because I didn’t even freak out once. In fact, I’d say it was one of the most special times we’ve had.
What made this party different?
- Like I said, I didn’t panic. Not even once.
- It was the first time we’ve had a party with different groups of people – friends from life, bible study, high school pals, family, etc
- I’m a introvert, but I didn’t feel drained after hours of people time.
- It was so fun I forgot to take a single picture to prove it happened.
I think I know why today was so unlike any other gathering we’ve had as a married couple. It’s because these are our people. For the three years we’ve lived here, I’ve never really felt like we had found our people. I had this picture in my head that we would have the elusive “tribe” of people just like us who we just happened to befriend. People who were exactly our age and loved everything we loved and were married and childless just like us.
I realized today that our tribe isn’t just one group. Our tribe is all the people who make us the people we are. The people we love like crazy and who love us back. Family, friends with kids, single friends, friends from bible study, high school friends, kiddos we love like they’re our own. . .
None of these people had met, and I doubt that we could make one regular “tribe” out of them, but that didn’t matter today. Today they were all my people, and I love them dearly.
(ps. Happy birthday, Cody. I’m sorry there is no proof of today. Hopefully you’ll remember it, even in your old age of 26.)